Why I Love Family Affairs
It’s been awhile since we were all together. My parents, my siblings, our collective brood: my three kids, my brother’s four kids, my sister’s three kids, my other sister’s two kids. Aunts, uncles, cousins, parents and grandparents. It was chaotic. It was hectic. It was too dang hot … but no one noticed really. Because the thing is, it always feels right to be together.
Author Jane Howard wrote,
“Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family.
Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.”
“What we all have discovered together … is that the passage of years guarantees very little in the way of answers, that ambivalence and ambiguity will follow us all the days of our lives, but that words and wit and woods and food and music will endure as sources of comfort.
We have learned that surprises exhilarate, if they don’t barrage us too fast, and that the quest for the proper balances between stillness and motion, restraint and excess, sound and silence, will continue, and that too much freedom—a life too much at large …
… can feel at least as constricting as too little. We have learned, maybe most importantly of all, to cherish the company of those who can make us laugh, who can forgive us our shortcomings, who can restore to us or evoke in us a feeling of purpose in the face of absurdity.”
And to be honest, we’re really good at creating our own absurdities.
We like to think we’re creative. Whatever you call it, we’re highly entertained most of the time.
We play games … we play jokes … we laugh with and at each other. And we celebrate …
… because little things are the only big things that really matter.
So we congregate. Usually on Sunday evenings. Sometimes we eat and run. Sometimes we sit and ponder. Sometimes we do a bit of both with a healthy dose of argumentative rhetoric and disgust. But always we return. Because our Sunday suppers hold us together, renew our collective spirits and provide the moments that remain all the days of our lives.
Family is the source of your most important relationships. Maybe you’re family is a combination of blood relatives and maybe it’s not. No matter. The clan of people who create your HOME are to be treasured.