Wait One Hour

Wait One Hour - the best advice I've ever received.

It may be the best piece of advice I’ve ever received, and she gave it to me just after I apologized for flying off the handle about something stupid. “Wait one hour before you respond.”

Before flying off the handle, before saying something you will regret, before sending a snap-judgment e-mail because you’re tired and annoyed: wait one hour. What a difference 60 minutes can make when you’re struggling with emotions and opinions and other people.

In one hour …  you will not be so preoccupied.

In one hour … you will not equate this moment’s stress with that person’s request.

In one hour … when you’ve stepped away from one situation and can clearly see what’s going on in the next — you will have the patience to respond with diplomacy.

Because let’s be real: occasionally some of us (ahem) get upset over trivial things because we’re trying to hold it together everywhere else. We face what’s really important with stern control, but we let ourselves slip — like a pressure valve — over something silly or inconsequential. It’s not because we enjoy roaring around like angry lions. It’s because at that particular moment our burdens were great and we were stressed to the max and one more thing pushed us right over the edge. Good people momentarily gone bad.

Now don’t get me wrong — sometimes the situation deserves a little fire and brimstone. But trust me, one hour will make the difference between devastating firestorm and graceful reproach.

Don’t react in 60 seconds. Respond in 60 minutes.

It makes all the difference in your world.

 

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6 Comments

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    Margie January 27, 2016 (8:34 pm)

    You are so right. I was given the advice once to consider if this issue will be remembered in 2 weeks. If not, walk away.

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      Jennifer Kiko January 27, 2016 (8:36 pm)

      Oh, that’s great advice too, Margie! Sure puts things in perspective. Thanks for sharing!

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    Gilda January 27, 2016 (8:36 pm)

    Oh so true! I may even still have emails in draft. 😉

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      Jennifer Kiko January 27, 2016 (8:37 pm)

      Ha! It’s a hard habit to remember, but it’s made all the difference to me … when I remember to WAIT. lol

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    MAC January 28, 2016 (8:59 am)

    Advice I need to take more often. 🙂

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    Nicole Steiner January 28, 2016 (1:02 pm)

    Now I want to know who gave you this advice! LOL.