From One Mother to Another

Mother. It’s a title worn with varying degrees of pride, prejudice, fear, and absolutely devastating love. They depend on us, count on us, expect things from us … always. And we’re happy and eager to give, most of the time. It’s inherent. It’s as natural as breathing. It’s mama bear syndrome. It matters.

Abe Lincoln's quote about mother

“All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.” – Abraham Lincoln

Listen up mothers. No matter who, where or what your circumstances: you are a mother, FIRST. You are responsible for the little people you brought into the world and/or determined to raise and send into the world. You are the world to them for awhile. So jump in with both feet …

Dear Mother, Mothering is like a sack race.

… and hop, run, skip, tumble and laugh your way through. You can win the race. Yes, there will be difficulties and challenges. Yes, it will be exhausting. Yes, it will test your stamina. You may turn out a little addled in the end …

Dear Mother, mothering will make you crazy.

But that’s ok. It’s not about you. I mean it is, but it’s not. It’s about them and the people they will become. Your influence is profound. The experiences they have with you will remain forever. Those experiences need not be grand, they need only be filled with love. And with that single ingredient you will find, in the end, that everything done with love WAS grand. To them.

“The mother’s heart is the child’s schoolroom.” – Henry Ward Beecher, U.S. Congressional clergyman

Dear Mother, teach them to seek adventure.

Stop and smell the roses. Fly the kites. Take the walks. Listen … always. Seek adventure together so that they know to do the same with their children some day. Teach them to work and play. Teach them how to organize their days in such a way that they make a difference, find adventure, and seek solace from family, friends and most importantly, God above.

“My mother was the most beautiful woman I ever saw. All I am I owe to my mother. I attribute all my success in life to the moral, intellectual and physical education I received from her.” – George Washington

Dear Mother, teach them to explore.

Give them reasons to smile and places to appreciate. Give them the gift of spending time with each other, with you, as a family. Teach them how to navigate the path, but encourage them to do it with their own sense of style and wonder …

Dear Mother, teach them to be individuals.

And feed them with books and words and things to ponder …

Dear Mother, foster creativity.

And take photos, lots and lots of photos. Because you’ll want to remember those sweet, crazy days. They pass all too quickly. Take heart — the new chapters hold just as many triumphs, tribulations and sweet nothings. It’ll be ok. There’s so much more love in store!

Dear Mother, love them with all your heart.

“Curiosity about life in all its aspects, I think, is still the secret of great, creative people.” – Leo Burnett

Imagination is free. So is laughter. Encourage both, dear mother. Give them the gift of play time. Give them the gift of play time on your time. Give them free time … yours. You have it. They need it, desperately. And oh, what a difference it will make. Our job as mothers is to give birth to dreamers:

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.” – Harriet Tubman

Dear Mother, play with them.

“There never was a woman like her. She was gentle as a dove and brave as a lioness… The memory of my mother and her teachings were, after all, the only capital I had to start life with, and on that capital I have made my way.”  – Andrew Jackson






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    Peggy May 8, 2016 (7:56 am)